Me: "12 months."
My kid is better than Yours, Mum: "Really.... Um. My daughter was crawling at six months."
Me: "Does she want a medal?"
This whole motherhood game is legit intense and no one really told me the rules. Prior to becoming a mum I knew that people would be giving left handed compliments, asking nosey questions and inserting their kids "achievements" (I use this world lightly) unnecessarily. But man, it really can be vicious, and I feel like it just doesn't need to be. Now I'm better prepared than ever, snarky responses all locked and loaded, but it took me some time to find my footing.
I think as a new mum looking for a niche, you want to fit in and sometimes discard rude comments as the norm. I rolled my eyes plenty of times and smiled politely when other women would say," Oh that's great, you're so lucky. Once she starts walking it's all over."
I also think that mums can be hypersensitive (myself included) to comments, and other times I think we ourselves might share things innocently without thinking them through.
For instance, one time I was talking to a woman who was telling me about how her daughter had trouble gaining weight. We were talking back and forth about growth charts and the percentages that doctors seem to throw around. I eventually shared with her the flip side, that my daughter had gained too much weight. The midwives were worried because my daughter almost gained a kilo in a week of cluster feeding and said we needed to keep on eye out (bc it could have been problematic for reason X,Y,Z). Thinking about it now, this mum was probably like, "What a nice problem to have gaining too much weight..." and she probably finished the reflection thinking I was a complete tosser.
Moral of the story? Be the best mum you can be. Head down, bum up and on your bub, your tasks and your goals. Not comparing your baby to another bub is a great place to start. At the end of the day, it really isn't that hard to be a nice, supportive person... and Lord knows the world could use a few more friendly faces on this journey through motherhood.
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